Articles and videos about therapy and personal growth.

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Stop Doing Good For Others

by Liz Scarfe | Jan 16, 2017 | Confidence, Personal Power, Therapy

An interesting theme I’ve seen in therapy this week is the pattern of "doing good for others" at one's own expense. We all do it from time to time, but many people do it all the time! It goes a bit like: “I have to go to the party because if I don’t my friend...

Killer Critics

by Liz Scarfe | Oct 16, 2016 | Inner criticism, Shame, Therapy

Most of us have mean inner critics that when we dig deep enough, have benevolent functions, good intentions, that kind of thing (check out this article on protective functions of inner critics for more on this). But some people have critics that go beyond mean, and...

Find The Right Therapist – The Ultimate Guide

by Liz Scarfe | Sep 16, 2016 | Therapy

So you want to find a therapist. Yay - therapy rocks! And I’m sorry to hear that. Most people come to therapy because they're suffering, and that's tough. Luckily there are lots of therapists out there so you have lots to choose from. Like in any profession, some of...

Tips and Tools for Surviving Job Interviews

by Liz Scarfe | Aug 26, 2016 | Confidence, Inner criticism, Personal Power

After experiencing my first root canal last week, I can still safely say that looking for a job is my least favourite thing to do. In fact one of my dearest hopes is to never have to apply for a job again. I don’t like writing applications, but even worse, I hate job...

Pigeons and Personal Growth

by Liz Scarfe | Aug 2, 2016 | Conflict, Liberation Psychology, Personal Power, process oriented

How we think about ourselves and our experiences impacts on our personal growth. Thinking about ourselves as parts or types can be helpful, but it can also inhibit our personal growth, pigeon-hole us and make us hand over our power.

Why Self Esteem is BAD for Confidence

by Liz Scarfe | Jun 1, 2016 | Confidence

Self esteem is one of the more dangerous concepts emerging from mainstream psychology in the past few decades. To have high self esteem you have to consider yourself better than others; more successful, smarter, more attractive etc. Aside from the dangers of comparison and judgement, it’s also illogical that we can all have high self esteem; we can’t all be above average, that’s not how averages work.